1. Honouring Parents
The Words of Allah Almighty: "We have instructed man to
honour his parents." (29:8)
Hadith no #(1) Abu 'Amr ash-Shaybani said, "The owner of this house (and he pointed at the house of 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud Raji.) said, "I asked the Prophet ﷺ which action Allah loves best. He replied, 'Prayer at its proper time.' 'Then what?' I asked. He ﷺ said, 'Then kindness to parents." I asked, 'Then what?' He replied, 'Then jihad in the Way of Allah.'" He added, "He told me about these things. If I had asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more."
Hadith no #(2) Abdullah ibn 'Umar said Raji., "The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent."
2. Dutifulness to One's Mother
Hadith no #(3) Bahz ibn Hakim's grandfather Raji. said, "I asked, 'Messenger of Allah ﷺ, to whom should I be dutiful?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then to whom
should I be dutiful?' Your father,' he replied, 'and then the next closest relative and then the next.'"
Hadith no #(4) Ata' ibn Yasar Raji. said that a man came to Ibn Abbas Raji. and said, "I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent?" He asked, "Is your mother alive?" "No," he replied. He said, "repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can." Ata' said, "I went to Ibn Abbas and asked him, 'Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive?' He replied, 'I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allah than dutifulness to his mother.'"
Hadith no #(5) Abu Hurayra Raji. said, "The Prophet ﷺ was asked, 'Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' He replied, Your father.'"
Hadith no #(4) Ata' ibn Yasar Raji. said that a man came to Ibn Abbas Raji. and said, "I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent?" He asked, "Is your mother alive?" "No," he replied. He said, "repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can." Ata' said, "I went to Ibn Abbas and asked him, 'Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive?' He replied, 'I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allah than dutifulness to his mother.'"
3. Dutifulness to One's Father
Hadith no #(5) Abu Hurayra Raji. said, "The Prophet ﷺ was asked, 'Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' He replied, Your father.'"
Hadith no #(6) Abu Hurayra Raji. reported: "A man came to the Prophet of Allah ﷺ and asked, 'What do you command me to do?' He replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then he asked him the same question again and he replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' He repeated it yet again and the Prophet ﷺ replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' He repeated the question a fourth time and the reply was, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then he put the question a fifth time and the Prophet ﷺ said, 'Be dutiful towards your father.'"
4. Dutifulness to Parents, even if they are unjust
Hadith no #(7) Ibn Abbas Raji. said, "If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him." He was asked, "Even if they wrong him?" "Even if they wrong him" he replied.
5. Gentle words to Parents
Hadith no #(8) Taysala ibn Mayyas said, "I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when I committed wrong actions which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentioned that to Ibn 'Umar Raji.. He inquired, 'What are they?" I replied, 'Such-and-such.' He stated, 'These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrong actions. They are: associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertion from the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consuming an orphan's property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing one's parents to weep through disobedience.' Ibn 'Umar Raji. then said to me, 'Do you wish to separate yourself from the Fire? Do you want to enter the Fire?' 'By Allah, yes!' I replied. He asked, 'Are your parents still alive?' I replied, 'My mother is.' He said, 'By Allah, if you speak gently to her and feed her, then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.'"
Hadith no #(9) Hisham ibn 'Urwa related this ay at from his father, "Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility. " (17:24)
6. Repaying Parents
Hadith no #(10) Abu Hurayra Raji. reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, "A child cannot repay his father unless he finds him as a slave and the buys him and sets him free."
Hadith no #(11) Sa'id ibn Abi Burda said, "I heard my father sat that Ibn 'Umar Raji. saw a Yamani man going around the House while carrying his mother on his back, saying, 'I am your humble camel. If her mount is frightened, I am not frightened.' Then he asked, 'Ibn 'Umar Raji.? Do you think that I have repaid her?' He replied, 'No, not even for a single groan.' "Ibn 'Umar did tawaf and came to the Maqam and prayed two rak 'ats. He said, 'Ibn Abi Musa, every two rak 'ats make up for everything that has happened between them.'"
Hadith no #(12) Marwan used to make Abu Hurayra Raji. his agent and he used to be located in Dhu'l-Hulayfa. His mother was in one house and he was in another. When he wanted to go out, he would stop at her door and say, "Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." She would reply, "And peace be upon you, my son, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." Then he said, "May Allah have mercy on you as you raised me when I was a child." She answered, "May Allah have mercy on you as you were dutiful to me when I was old." Whenever he wanted to go inside, he would do something similar.
Hadith no #(13) Abdullah ibn 'Amr Raji. said, "A man came to the Prophet ﷺ and made a pledge to him that he would do hijra. He left his parents who were in tears. The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them weep.'"
Hadith no #(14) Abu Hazim reported that Abu Murra, the mawla of Umm Hani' bint Abi Talib Raji. had told him that he rode with Abu Hurayra Raji. to his land in al-'Aqiq. When he entered his land, he shouted out in his loudest voice, "Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing!" She replied, "And peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." He said, "May Allah have mercy on you as you raised me when I was a child." She replied, "My son, may Allah repay you well and be pleased with you as you were dutiful towards me when I was old."
7. Disobedience to Parents
Hadith no #(15) Abu Bakra Raji. reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Shall I tell you which is the worst of the major wrong actions?" "Yes, Messenger of Allah," they replied. He said, "Associating something else with Allah and disobeying parents." he had been reclining, but then he said up and said, "And false witness." Abu Bakr said, "He continued to repeat it until I said, 'Is he never going to stop?'"
Hadith no #(16) Warrad, the scribe of al-Mughira ibn Shu'ba Raji., said, "Mu'awiya Raji. wrote to al-Mughira, saying, 'Write down for me what you heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say.'" Warrad said, "He dictated to me and I wrote out, 'I heard him forbid asking too many questions, wasting money and chit-chat.'"
8. "Allah curses whoever curses his parents"
Hadith no #(17) Abu't-Tufayl said, "Ali Raji. was asked, 'Did the Prophet ﷺ give you something special which he did not give to anyone else?' He replied, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not give me anything special which he did not give to everyone else except for what I have in my sword scabbard.' He brought out a piece of paper. Written on that paper was: Allah curses anyone who sacrifices an animal to something other than Allah. Allah curses anyone who steals a milestone. Allah curses anyone who curses his parents. Allah curses anyone who gives shelter to an innovator.'"
9. Being Dutiful to Parents as long as that does not entail disobedience to Allah
Hadith no #(18) Abu'd-Darda' Raji. said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ recommended nine things to me:
>'Do not associate anything with Allah, even if you are cut to pieces or burned.
>Do not abandon a prescribed prayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah's protection.
>Do not drink wine - it is the key to every evil.
>Obey your parents. If they command you to abandon your worldly possessions, then leave them for them.
>Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in the right.
>Do not run away from the army when it is advances, even if you are killed while your companions run away.
>Spend on your wife out of your means.
>Do not raise a stick against your wife.
>Cause your family to fear Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.'"
Hadith no #(19) Abdullah ibn 'Amr Raji. said, "A man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, 'I have come to make you a pledge that will do hijra although I have left my parents in tears." The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.'"
Hadith no #(20) Abdullah ibn 'Amr Raji. said, "A man came to the Prophet ﷺ wanting to do jihad. The Prophet ﷺ asked, 'Are your parents alive?' 'Yes,' he replied, he said, 'Then exert yourself on their behalf.'"
10. The One who Fails his Parents will not enter the Garden
Hadith no #(21) Abu Hurayra Raji. reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, "Disgrace! Disgrace! Disgrace!" They said, "Messenger of Allah, who?" He ﷺ said, "The one who fails his parents or one of them when they are old will enter the Fire."
11. Allah prolongs the life of someone who is dutiful towards his parents
Hadith no #(22) Mu'adh said, "Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allah Almighty will prolong his life."
12. One does not ask forgiveness for his father if he is an idolater
Hadith no #(23) Ibn Abbas Raji. mentioned the words of the Almighty, "When one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say 'Ugh!' to them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity. Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say: 'Lord, show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small. " (17:23-24) He said, "This was abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: 'It is not right for the Prophet and those who have iman to ask forgiveness for the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear to them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire. ' (9:113)"
13. Dutifulness towards a parent who is an idolater
Hadith no #(24) Sa'id ibn Abi Waqqas Raji. said: "Four ayats were revealed about me.
>The first was when my mother swore she would neither eat nor drink until I left Muhammad, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. Allah Almighty revealed, 'But if they try to make you associate something with Me about which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. Keep company with them correctly and courteously in this worldE' (31:15)
>The second was when I took a sword that I admired and said, 'Messenger of Allah , give me this!' Then the ayat was revealed: 'They will ask you about booty. '(8:1)
>The third was when I was ill and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ came to me and I said, 'Messenger of Allah, I want to divide my property. Can I will away a half?' He said, 'No.' A third?' I asked. He was silent and so after that it was allowed to will away a third.
>The fourth was when I had been drinking wine with some of the Ansar. One of them hit my nose with the jawbone of a camel. I went to the Prophet ﷺ and Allah Almighty revealed the prohibition of wine."
Hadith no #(25) Asma' bint Abi Bakr Raji. said, "In the time of the Prophetﷺ my mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful). I asked the Prophet ﷺ 'Do I have to treat her well?' 'Yes,' he replied." Ibn 'Uyayna said, "Then Allah revealed about her, 'Allah does not forbid you from being good to those who have not fought you in the deen. ' (60:8)"
Hadith no #(26) Ibn 'Umar Raji. said, '"Umar Raji. saw a silk robe for sale. He said, 'Messenger of Allah, would you buy this robe and wear it on Jumu'a and when delegations visit you?' He replied, 'Only a person who has no portion in the Next World could wear this.' Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was given some robes made of the same material. He sent one of the robes to 'Umar. 'Umar exclaimed, 'How can I wear it when you said what you said about it?' The Prophet replied, 'I did not give it to you so that you could wear it. You can sell it or give it to someone.' 'Umar sent it to a brother of his in Makkah who had not yet become Muslim."
14. A person should not revile his parents
Hadith no #(27) Abdullah ibn Amr Raji. said that the Prophet ﷺ said, "Reviling one's parents is one of the great wrong actions." They asked, "How could he revile them?" He said, "He reviles a man who then in turn reviles his mother and father."
Hadith no #(28) 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr Raji. said, "A man's reviling his father is one of the major wrong actions in the sight of Allah Almighty."
15. The punishment for disobeying parents
Hadith no #(29) Abu Bakra Raji. reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, "There is no wrong action more likely to bring punishment in this world in addition to what is stored up in the Next World than oppression and severing ties of kinship."
Hadith no #(30) Tmran ibn Husayn Raji. said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'What do you say about fornication, drinking wine and theft?' Allah and His Messenger know best,' we replied. He stated, 'They are acts of outrage and there is punishment for them, but shall I tell you which is the greatest of the great wrong actions? Associating with Allah Almighty and disobeying parents.' He had been reclining, but then he sat up and said, 'and lying.'"
16. Making Parents weep
Hadith no #(31) Ibn 'Umar Raji. said, "Making parents weep is part of disobedience and one of the major wrong actions."
17. The Supplication of Parents
Hadith no #(32) Abu Hurayra Raji. reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, "Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children."
Hadith no #(33) Abu Hurayra Raji. reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, "No human child has ever spoken in the cradle except for 'Isa ibn Maryam A. and the companion of Jurayj." Abu Hurayra asked, "Prophet of Allah, who was the companion of Jurayj?" The Prophet replied, "Jurayj was a monk who lived in a hermitage. There was a cowherd who used to come to the foot of his hermitage and a woman from the village used to come to the cowherd. "One day his mother came while he was praying and called out, 'Jurayj !' He asked himself, 'My mother or my prayer?' He concluded that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted to him a second time and he again asked himself, 'My mother or my prayer?' He thought that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted a third time and yet again he asked himself, 'My mother or my prayer?' He again concluded that he should prefer the prayer. When he did not answer her, she said, 'Jurayj, may Allah not let you die until you have looked at the faces of the beautiful women.' Then she left. "Then the village woman was brought before the king after she had given birth to a child. He asked, 'Whose is it?' 'Jurayj 's,' she replied. He asked, 'The man in the hermitage?' 'Yes,' she answered. He ordered, 'Destroy his hermitage and bring him to me.' They hacked at his hermitage with axes until it collapsed. They bound his hand to his neck with a rope and took him along to the king. When he passed by the beautiful women, he saw them and smiled. They were looking at him along with the people. "The king asked, 'Do you know what this woman claims?' 'What does she claim?' he asked. He replied, 'She claims that you are the father of her child.' He asked her, 'Where is the child?' They replied, 'It is in her room.' He went to the child and said, 'Who is your father?' 'The cowherd,' he replied. The king said, 'Shall we build your hermitage out of gold?' 'No,' he replied. He asked, 'Of silver?' 'No,' he replied. The king asked, 'What shall we build it with?' He said, 'Put it back the way you found it.' Then the king asked, What made you smile.' 'Something I recognised,' he replied, 'The supplication of my mother overtook me.' Then he told him about it."
18. Offering Islam to a Christian mother
Hadith no #(34) Abu Hurayra Raji. said, "Neither Jew nor Christian has heard me and then not loved me. I wanted my mother to become Muslim, but she refused. I told her about it and she still refused. I went to the Prophet ﷺ and said, 'Pray to Allah for me.' He did so and I went to her. She was inside the door of the house and said, Abu Hurayra, I have become Muslim.' I told the Prophet ﷺ and I asked, 'Make supplication to Allah for me and my mother.' He said, 'O Allah, make people love Abu Hurayra and his mother.'"
19. Dutifulness towards Parents after their Death
Hadith no #(35) Abu Usayd Raji. said, "We were with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ when a man asked, 'Messenger of Allah, is there any act of dutifulness which I can do for my parents after their death?' He replied, 'Yes. There are four things: Supplication for them, asking forgiveness for them, fulfilling their pledges, and being generous to friends of theirs. You only have ties of kinship through your parents."
Hadith no #(36) Abu Hurayra Raji. said, "The dead person can be raised a degree after his death. He said, 'My Lord, how is this?' He was told, Your child can ask for forgiveness for you.'"
Hadith no #(37) Ibn Sirin said, "We were with Abu Hurayra Raji. one night and he said, 'O Allah, forgive Abu Hurayra and his mother and whoever asks for forgiveness for both of them.'" Muhammad said, "We used to ask for forgiveness for them so that we would be included in Abu Hurayra's supplication."
Hadith no #(38) Abu Hurayra Raji. reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "When a person dies, all action is cut off for him with the exception of three things: sadaqa which continues, knowledge which benefits, or a righteous child who makes supplication for him."
Hadith no #(39) Ibn 'Abbas Raji. reported that a man said, "Messenger of Allah ﷺ, my mother died without a will. Will it help her if I give sadaqa on her behalf?" "Yes," he replied.
20. The Dutifulness of someone who maintains what his father loved
Hadith no #(40) Abdullah ibn Dinar reported that Ibn 'Umar Raji. passed by a bedouin during a journey. The bedouin's father had been a friend of 'Umar's. The bedouin said, "Am I not the son of so-and-so?" He said, "Yes, indeed. " Ibn 'Umar ordered that he be given a donkey which was following him. He also took off his turban and gave it to him, One of the men with him said, "Wouldn't two dirhams be enough for him?" He replied, "The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Maintain what your father loved. Do not cut it off so that Allah puts out your light."
Hadith no #(41) Ibn 'Umar Raji. reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The strongest form of dutifulness is when a man maintains relations with the people his father loved."
21. Do not cut off someone with whom your father maintained ties
Hadith no #(42) Sa'd ibn 'Ubada az-Zurqi reported that his father said, "I was sitting in the mosque in Madina with 'Amr ibn 'Uthman Raji. when 'Abdullah ibn Salam Raji. walked by, leaning on his nephew. 'Amr left the assembly and showed his concern for him." Then Ibn Salam returned to them and said, "Do what you like, 'Amr ibn 'Uthman," (and he said it two or three times) By the One who sent Muhammad ﷺ with the Truth, it is in the Book of Allah Almighty (and he said it twice), 'Do not cut off those your father has joined so that that extinguishes your light.'"
22. Love is inherited
Hadith no #(43) Abu Bakr ibn Hazm reported that one of the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ said, "It is enough that I tell you that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'Love is inherited.'"
23. A man should not call his father by his name nor sit down before him nor walk in front of him
Hadith no #(44) Abu Hurayra Raji. saw two men and said to one of them, "Who is this man in relation to you?" He is my father," he replied. He said, "Do not call him by his own name nor walk in front of him nor sit down before him."
24. Can a man call his father by his kunyal
Hadith no #(45) Shahr ibn Hawshab said, "We went out with Ibn 'Umar and Salim Raji. said to him, 'Peace, Abu Abdu'r-Rahman."'
Hadith no #(46) Abdullah ibn Dinar said reported that Ibn 'Umar Raji. said, "But Abu Hafs 'Umar decided...
Book: Al-Adab al-Mufrad
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Topics 1- Parents
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